I recently spoke with someone in the community who asked how we can bring more awareness into our relationships. While awareness is always present, many of us don’t fully pay attention to what’s happening in any given moment due to the noise of our minds. Choosing to live in a state of awareness can help us understand who we are and what triggers us in our relationships.
Recognizing Patterns and Reflections
Some relationships reveal old patterns that no longer serve our well-being—especially those that leave us feeling stuck or trapped in a cycle of doom and gloom. Life mirrors us; everywhere we look, we see reflections of ourselves. Embracing this understanding can prevent us from holding others accountable for our feelings. For example, if you think your partner is selfish, it might reflect your own tendencies or invite you to practice less judgment.
Taking Responsibility in Relationships
A significant shift occurs when both people take responsibility for their actions and words. This openness deepens love, brings compassion to yourself and others and reduces tension. Avoiding responsibility in conversations only creates suffering. When one person is working through an issue, the other can offer support with love, kindness, and understanding. We must remember that we’re all works in progress—everyone is just trying to do their best.
Healing Through Self-Inquiry
Often, we expect others to fix our emotions or fill a void within us. But this void cannot be filled by anything external; and if it appears to do so, then you will discover it’s only temporary. What is wanting your attention? If we can inquire within, we have the power to resolve what seems to be lacking. Depending on others to make us feel happy, loved, or worthy leads to suffering. But when we fulfill our own longing for love and validation, we are truly free.
Discovering Love Within
There is already enough love inside of you—more than you could ever imagine. Self-inquiry helps reveal that love is always present within us, freeing us from the need for external validation. Start by giving love to yourself and finding ways to make yourself happy. Ask yourself where feelings of unworthiness or inadequacy come from.
Ultimately, the answers lie within YOU. Welcome every part of who you are with love and see what happens.
